Agree with you here and have struggled with the same fears (admittedly articulated less clearly).

The biggest frustration for me is the smart people who take an intellectual approach to this decision — with the argument structured around free speech and dissenting voices and built on the foundational idea that there are lots of reasons to support Trump that are not grounded in racism, xenophobia or misogyny. This is frustrating to me because it ignores the implicit statement that those other reasons are MORE IMPORTANT or SHOULD BE VALUED MORE HIGHLY than racism, xenophobia or misogyny.

This implicit deprioritization of the human side of the election, the pain that will play out over decades and generations of Americans to come, is the thing those voting for Trump (or against Hillary) are failing to see.